Relationship difficulties

The Armed Forces life is not easy and postings, deployments and other aspects of military life can take its toll on your relationship. The partner being left in control of the family finances can feel overwhelmed or you, the serving partner may feel stressed and irritated by their decisions.

There's no magic wand, but trust and talking about your finances is key to any relationship.  If you do have difficulties there are many organisations you can talk to.

If things are really serious and you are heading for divorce/dissolution then see the Legal advice page.

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Organisation     Telephone/email  Website   Notes
Relate - the relationship people  0300 100 1234 Relate 

For advice, relationship counselling, sex therapy, workshops, mediation, consultations and support face-to-face, by phone and online.

Counselling Directory n/a Couples Counselling

Counselling or psychotherapy provides a regular time for you to explore your feelings and talk about your problems.

Find a counsellor

Citizens Advice England - 08444 111 444
Wales - 08444 77 20 20
Northern Ireland - 08452 666 696
Scotland - 0808 800 1007

Northern Ireland Email-

Domestic violence and abuse

Armed Services Advice Project Scotland

Emergency options and longer-term help if you're affected by violence at home, and details of organisations that can provide further help - for men and women.

Men's Advice Line

0808 801 0327

Monday to Friday 10am-1pm and 2pm-5pm 
(free from landlines and from mobiles using the O2, Orange, T Mobile, Three (3), Virgin, and Vodafone networks}


Men's Advice Line

Help and support for male victims of domestic violence.

Women's Aid & Refuge

National Domestic Violence Helpline

0808 2000 247 (free 24 hours a day)


Women's aid


The key national charity working to end domestic violence against women and children.

Last reviewed: 19/05/2015